About Partner

• a member of a loving couple, often used as a neutral term like [significant other], that can apply to unmarried or homosexual couples
• a member of a [partnership]
• a participant in a [Partner dance]
• a member of a [law firm] or [accounting] firm which is formed as a partnership; sometimes senior employees of the firm may have the title "partner" (eg. "salaried partner") to indicate a profit sharing status; salaried partners are distinguished from equity partners, who own the business

• [Partner (2007 film)], a Bollywood film directed by David Dhawan , starring Salman Khan and Govinda
• [Partner (band)], a Dutch pop group
• [Partner (manga)], a Japanese Shōjo manga by Miho Obana
• [Partner Communications Company Ltd.], an Israeli wireless telecommunications service provider.
• [Peugeot Partner], a vehicle made by the French car manufacturer Peugeot.
• [Partner (horse)], a famous Thoroughbred racehorse.

• [Partners (album)], an album by Scherrie & Susaye.
• [Partners (TV series)], a TV show that aired from 1995-1996
• [Partners (1982 film)], a movie directed by James Burrows, starring Ryan O'Neal and John Hurt
• [Partners (Will & Grace)], an episode of the TV show Will & Grace
• [Partners (Spider-Man: The Animated Series)], an episode of Spider-Man: The Animated Series
• [Partners (The Stationer)], High Street specialist stationery retailer

Partner

Questions and Answers

my partner hates my daughter?

Q) im a lesbian and have a daughter from a previous straight relationship. my daughter is 13 and ive been with my partner for nearly 8 years we have had our ups and downs but just lately my daughter has been stealing from my partners mum ( who is a very nice lady) the first time she took £80 quid the second time she took an eyore pen, now i no its only a pen but she still took it without asking and my partner was the one who found it missing, my partner was brought up around kids that didnt steal e.t.c and my partner cant deal with it now she wants me and not my daughter. i love my partner and dont want to lose her what can i do or say to put things right for all of us? my daughter did love my partner im not sure now thou.

A) I would have a talk with your daughter to find out why she is doing what she is doing? What is the real reason for her behaviour? Ask how she is feeling and why she is feeling the way she is? I think your partner should lighten up and start asking what can we do to improve things, instead of being a bitch toward your child. You all need to resolve the problem together and in a calm a rational fashion. Maybe your partner is the one with the problem?? Maybe it is sexual awakening or tension between the two of them, masquerading as anger...

my partner has a friend he quite often employs when he is busy at work .They have been friends for around ten?

Q) yrs.M e& my partner are settled with a four yr old daughter and a three yr old son .we have seen girlfriends come and go .he has settled down with a girl and has two small children both under 3.They argue alot and he spends alot of time at his own flat away from her.tnite at 10 o` clock she phoned my partner and asked if he could give her a lift. She had taken back a bike she had recently bought her partner for his birthday and needed a lift............i wouldnt call us friends but we have had them over for a drink b4 although we try not to get involved.am i being paranoid or has she over stepped the mark.I wouldnt dream of asking her or her partner for anything and i think she is trying it on with my partner what do u think?i have been with my partner for 8yrs and im not a jealous sort of person and he agreed with me about how strange this was and said i had good reason to be annoyed i wouldnt dream of phoning my partners friend up at ten oclock on a saturday nite asking for a lift regardless of any situation i would find myself in.Family and friends can ask anything but like i said she is neither.......she wont be doing it again.I have never even thought of something like this before with anyone but call it gut instinct I posted this as i wanted other peoples points of view on it thank you to all those with a brain and 4 the rest of yous hmmmm!Lets see!!!Lord of the jungle what is your problem apart from being offensive and extremely shallow grow up dickhead

A) sounds like she needed a lift.. just let it go for now if the behavior persists then do something...

is my partner stringing me along and is he commitment phobic?? help!?

Q) i have gone out with my partner for 8 years, we have lived together for 4 years. i finished my degree at university 3 years ago to which the plan was with my partner that when i completed the course we would move to a larger home and start a family-that was three years ago and we are still living in the same one bedroomed house-which the mortgage is only in his name. i am 29 years of age and my partner is 32. for the last 10 months i have been in a one way relationship, wanting to know where this relationship is going, i constantly am made to feel guilty for wanrting normal things such as a family. my partner has constantly told me that we will be moving and starting a family-however i have only recently found out from him that he has been saying this to keep me. my partner has told me he wants a family and to move he just doesnt want to do it yet! i am 29 ad feel i am wasting my life with him. im open to any ideas, opinions , support and advice.

A) give him an unltimatum... either you are serious about us or not. and if your not then i am going to find someone that is. you go girl.

Partner of 4 years taking a break from us following Fathers death?

Q) my partners dad died a few months ago following a long illness which left him in a lot of pain. He was very close to his dad & did the majority of his caring whilst he was ill. I tried to be supportive during this time to my partner & his family. About 6 weeks ago my partner asked me for some space to clear his head & adjust to circumstances- the famliy home is to be sold etc. Since then we have only seen each other a couple of times & spoken on the phone sporadically. Last week I decided to stop texting him as he rarely replies & its not really giving him space if I continue to text him. the trouble is I cant stop thinking about him & if/ when he will contact me & I dont know what is the right thing for me to do. I know it sounds as though I think that this is all about me- I know its not. He is not the kind of person to mess me around or cheat. I thought he depended on me & now I feel really rejected. I cant pretend to understand how hes feeling which is why Im asking 4 advice

A) Grief following bereavement is such a personal experience he is necessarily focussed inward at the moment. I can understand why you're feeling rejected but he can probably only cope with his feelings at this time. My advice would be to let him to know you are there for him, ready to love and support him should he need it. I'd maybe send a card with a brief note and leave it at that. I expect it will be difficult to be patient but these things take time and impatience may result in his feeling pressured. Try to distract yourself with acitivities that will keep you occupied and give you less time to think about him and when he might contact you. He is obviously capable of identifying and asking for what he needs, if you are able to allow him the space your relationship should be all the stronger for it when he returns.

partner being punished for hitting youth for firing at his 8 year old son in window?

Q) few weeks ago our son was looking through bedroom window seconds after the window was broken with a catapult, my son had seen 4 youths over the road told us who they were so my partner ran out to find them. He came back 20 minutes later told me he saw 4 youths hiding in trees when he was in car so when he did find them dragged one of them to the car to take to police station to explain at this the chap aged 15 sat on the ground so that my partner could not lift him so he hit him on the head with a metal tube knowing it was wrong but was very angry and upset thinking what could have happened if our son had not have moved. as he got into the car he saw this lad get up holding his head and walk off.That evening my partner was arrested for assaulting the youth was taken for 6 hours the police said that because he had told the truth would have him for common assault now his friends have changed stories lots of times and now are saying he was knocked out will the court see our side or liars

A) I know it's wrong and your partner felt that the youth deserved it but assault is assault whatever the circumstances leading up to it. Also the youth could have been seriously hurt, you just don't hit people on the head with metal bars it's not right sorry but your partner is in the wrong.

Can one partner move housing association properties to be closer to another while that person has treatment?

Q) Housing association transfer regulations information needed. One partner about to undergo voluntary residential stay of approx 6-18 months in London to treat personality disorder, but wants minimum separation from other partner/2 children. Would the sane partner be able to move between housing associations or from housing association property to council property in order to be closer to partner in care? What would be the first steps to doing this, if it's possible?

A) Hi If it was me in this position I would contact the housing association to see if they have properties in the area of London where the rehab centre is. If they have properties in the vicinity then request a transfer and explain your case to them. It would help to get medical evidence to support your application too. If you do transfer though you may have to stay there for longer than the 18 months as you may not be able to get a transfer back to the original area straight away. I dont think transferring to a council property will be an option as they are two totally seperate entities and the council wont owe you any favours unfortunately. You could try looking at at this website as it may be very useful http://www.ukhomeswap.co.uk/ Remeber if you move to give the correct amount of notice to the housing association, trnasfer your housing benefit if you receive it and re-claim any income benefits you receive in the new area you move to. I hope this helps and Good Luck Happy Househunting!! Dean

what rights does my new partner have to addopt my child when her real father has no contact and not paid?

Q) my ex partner withdrew from court for access to our daughter as caffcass and social services reports were against him.he has had no contact since and paid no maintenance for her this was 4 years ago now my new partner wants to addopt her without us having to contact the biological farther is this possible as her real farther was abbusive and also denies to C.S.A he is her dad yet they have made their own conclusion to this and i have still not recieved any money.i know that if we go for addoption he would try to stop it just to get at me and my partner not for the childs sake as he is not interested in her.so i dont want him to have involvement.i have parental responsibilitiy and also been able to change her last name to my new partners without my ex partners consent and does it help as i was not married to my ex partner either.

A) After 5 years of no contact the father loses all parental rights. I would double check with citizens advice but im sure this is still the case! I am going through the same at the minute. The only thing is he will not have to pay any CSA if your new partner adopts. Good luck with this.

Do u think my partner should join the army?

Q) My partner is considering joining the army, im fine about it as we have discussed all issues. He was going to join a while back but then i fell pregnant so he didnt, but now the baby is a bit older he wants to join again. I think its a good idea as it is a good life when your in the army, as my sisiter's partner also is in the army. Also im a qualified nursery nurse so it will be easy to find jobs in the english army schools wherever we get posted. Me and my partner really feel its good career prospects. We have 2 children, 2 girls, aged 2 years and 6 months. Some people disagree with us, especially my partners mum, as she keeps saying what if you die or get posted to iraq, i feel she is trying to put him off and is being selfish, although i do understand she is his mum & is right to worry. But she should also be happy and proud of him shouldnt she? My partner has gone to see about it today and signup for his training. Do you think we are right to join? Please help.

A) join the coastguard. it's still serving your country. my g/f is british and her son joined up, he was told you'll get qualifications learn how to drive 40 foot lorries see the world learn languages meet intresting and friendly people. no sooner was he nearing the end of basic training the orders came through his regiment or whatever was on the next plane to iraq. he was able to sign himself out. i'm happy knowing my g/f son is alive and well and so is she. "what if" can never be discounted.

Advice requested - dealing with partner's history?

Q) I have just started seeing my partner, after coming out of a long term relationship. My current partner i have been seeing for about 7 months. We have slept together once only, but have had a few 'fumbles' very occasionally. He is usually too tired. He has told me about his past where he would sleep with woman for company or after going out clubbing/partying and I am beginning to feel 'inadequate'. My past relationship I enjoyed a lot more sex wheras now I am starting to worry that something is wrong? Maybe its because I have only ever had one long previous relationship whereas my partner has had many partners that I feel that we may be sexually incompatible?! Can anyone offer their opinions or advice? Has anyone been in the same situtation? Or am I making a big deal from nothing? I have chatted to my partner about this and they have reassured me.

A) Hello there, I can imagine how you feel,i do not think this is about you..your partner needs to make time for the both of you,not easy in a world where people work longer hours.I can really understand your feelings..my partner runs his buisness from home and he is rarely in the mood which often frustrated me and makes me feel unworthly or unloved,his libido is much lower than mine.You are not making a big deal out of this..sex money are often the brunt of arguments between couples.All you can do is be onest and say how you feel in a positive way.For now plenty of hugs and open communication! Janine**

Is my Partner being Unreasonable? Or am I to blame?

Q) I was at college and doing well I had been accepted into Uni. I was workin p/time & things were ok, then my partner got made redundant & then at the same time we lost our house! So we had to move areas my partner got a job in Essex & so we moved. We have been here about 2 months now. I got a Job working for a Gym which I was really enjoying, the team was great & I had fun! My partner wanted me to leave as he was not happy with all the males that go in and out of Gyms and said he was unhappy and so i left! I then started another job but I got rushed into Hospital with a suspected Bloodclot on my first day & had to spend 3 days in hospital! Im fine now but since coming out of hospital I have not returned to work, I have been to Interviews & every agency has my CV and its going really well, I have made it to a 2nd Interview for a really good job but my partner is not talking to me because we have no money and he says its my fault as Im not working but I am trying so hard!! Sorry, I am 23 year old female The main reason he gets stressed is because the last few days I have been getting fed up of sitting indoors and doing nothing and so I have met my brother and we have gone around giving out CV'S etc.. and my brother bought me lunch! also yesterday my mum and dad could see I was down and so they treated me to lunch and we went out for a couple of hours as it was a nice day!! My partner says its not fair that he is stuck at work whilst I am out having lunch!! he would rather I sat indoors, he said it would make him feel better!! He really doesnt think he is in the wrong, he says he cant help how he feels and I should just deal with it and this is how its going to be until I get a job! I am still always looking for work, I never stop thinking about it!! I have good qualifications but jobs are not Instant!!

A) I certainly don't feel you are to blame - redundancy will have had some affect on your partner and needing to move will have been another reason for stress. The blood clot situation could have happened wherever you were (working or not) but the combination of leaving the Gym (to not cause problems with your partner) and now being out of work are areas where your partner was not very reasonable (Gym), or understanding (getting a new job isn't simple), in my view. He asked you to leave work (where you had settled in and were happy) because of his lack of confidence / jealousy over you being paid attention by other men. So he may have been angry for a while until he got you to leave that job. Now you're between jobs, and cash is short, he has another reason to be angry, yet this is through no fault of yours. You may end up in a better job than the one at the Gym, but if you had just been off for a few days in hospital (so not swinging the lead) would they have taken you back? I expect so, and if that had been the case, there would be two incomes so cash wouldn't have been a problem. So, don't blame yourself - you left the Gym despite liking the job - and you need to try to put up with your partner being moody, and keep your chin up - good luck with the next job. Once you are in work again, you will be able to look back on the break as a minor 'blip' once cash isn't short and you have settled in... Yes, your partner is, in my view, being unreasonable - he's ignoring the fact you /had/ a job (until he wanted you to leave the Gym) and the blood clot could be a 'sign' that the next job just wasn't the right one for you... I would simply suggest you avoid bringing up the Gym in the future - we know that you 'had a job you liked, at the Gym, and left because he was jealous / worried' and being out of work was in part because of having to leave the Gym - but if you ever bring up how it is unreasonable to blame you, it's likely to just get him moody again... I know it's awkward when you are not to blame, but I'd suggest if he does bring it up as being "your fault" you could simply ask how he can blame you for the blood clot - after all, you didn't blame him when he was made redundant, just got on with doing whatever was needed...

MY PARTNER AND BEST FRIEND in LOVE what to do?

Q) My partner and i are together few years.Since partner is medical doctor gave me friends number incase i had to pass urgent messages.This friend asked me to introduce him to some girlfriends i did.During this time my partners friend wanted introduction to my friends he used to call me often.Now my partners friend doesnt pass messages to my partner who is a doctor when at hospital,tries to cause trouble between my partner and I.My partner and this friend are like siblings.I dont want to cause trouble or come between them.What to do

A) Dont hassle him just give him a pager or SIM card so only you both have number of it.Then gift it to him.His reaction to that gift and you both being in touch will be a loud and clear message to best friend to buzz off

Does one partner have the right to decide that no one will have sex after marriage?

Q) Hypothesis: Prior to marriage a couple is intimate every time they get together which may be as much as seven days a week. They get married and a year later their first child is born. Another year passes by and arbitrarily one partner is no longer interested in sex in any form. Both enjoy each others company and both are happy with every other aspect of their relationship. What should the partner that is still interested in sex do? Does the one that looses interest first possess a superior position that gives him or her more rights to determine that neither partner may have sex? Sometimes the one that looses interest in sex with his or her partner may want the other partner to seek counseling for being over sexed. Does this mean that that person also was over sexed prior to marriage and marriage alone cured him or her? A)In most incidences health, career and physical changes do not occur over night, so assuming this is true, why do some partners decide that sex after marriage is wrong? B)I do not condone unfaith behaviors; I just wonder why some people are interested in uninhibited frequent sex before a commitment is solidified than afterwards will decide their partner is a bad person for wanting any intimacy? In other words, does one partner have the right to decide that no one will have sex after marriage?

A) No, one partner doesn't have the right to stop the necessary physical intimacy that is a gift of marriage! No hanky panky means that not all is well on the homefront. No way is that normal for a partner to not want to express themselves for such a long period of time. Sex is the glue that holds a relationship together. It's probably gotten my husband and me through several rough patches of our marriage and I would feel terrible if he did considered me "oversexed" when all I want to do is feel close to him. True, sexual patterns do change over the course of a lifetime, especially when baby arrives, but they need to work for both people involved. I'd say your partner has definite issues about sexuality--don't want to venture what they are, but they pretty extreme to me.

Partner/groupwork hate??

Q) when the teacher says in groups or partner, something always turns me off... i really dont like working in groups or with a partner, i'd rather have control over my stuff and not worry about how the final result will turn out in case someone doesnt do something they were suppose to... and if i want to get away from this i will loose marks, how can i make partner/groupwork stuff more enjoyable and comfortable for me and others? i guses i'm intrapersonal cuz i wanna do my stuff and not have to worry about others. Back in my country in schools we always had to do our own assignments, there was no such thing as groupwork/partner so it's still hard for me to get used to it here though i know this is a benefit for me cuz we help each other complete something i know that but i'd rather complete it all by myself so i know what i'm doing. Any tips/suggestions on how can i get used to this method of group/partner work? cuz i know it's going to come up a LOT,share ur experiences too if u want!

A) i think this is done to teach you how to work with others and how to communicate with the ones you are working with and yes you will in school and in life get stuck with a partner that will let you down or not pull their own weight but out of school when this happens you can't run to tell the teacher each of you from when the project starts make sure to split things 50/50 if there are 8 supplies that are needed you bring your 4 but please do take into consideration your partner may not have the funds to do this if not bring it up to the teacher they may help out or you could bring the supplies and the partner will do all the writing just make sure you tell your partner up front that you are partners that each of you have work to do and you will most likely be alright

Business Partner withdrew funds from corp account w/o authority?

Q) corp with two partners. One partner quit working back in March and has not contributed to company since. Recently went to office then bank and deducted a large sum of money from corp account without partners knowledge. What can be done to the partner who is still on corp paperwork but no longer contributes to firm? Also, what can be done about deducting funds from account w/o partners knowledge or permission?

A) It appears that your agreements are not written down in a clear and concise way.. In other words, you did not set up the bank account that both partner's signartures are needed for withdrawals. You did not create a partnership agreement that deals with what happens when one partner leaves the partnership (a signed document). He can legally access the company's finances unless it is wrtten somewhere otherwise. The fact that he "disappeared" and has not been participating does not make him no longer an owner of the business. Your partner is entitled to a payout or portion of the business (a dollar amount). You need to sit down and work out an agreed to separation so that he no longer has access to the company's resources and he walks away with his fair share (either a dollar amount if you are in the black or an agreement to pay off money owed if you are in the red.) Once that is done, his name can be removed from the bank, corp filings, etc. Good luck.

Marry my partner with stepkids or separate for good?

Q) I am 22 years old and my partner is 49. I really love my partner no matter what, but can't accept his kids 15 and 12. His son lives with us and is very demanding. I am a very demanding person too, but we don't spend much time together. I always have to cut conversations with my partner is the son comes in or is there. I wish I had more love and attention from my partner. I also feel as a second as they have their own issues with children's mother and kids. I feel hurt everyday just looking at kids and seeing how my partner created them with another woman. I feel I dont's want less time with my partner because he made a mistake with a woman years ago and I don't want ot be responsible for somebody elses mistakes. I realize I will never have my ideal situations a single boyfriend. We have a little girl together and she spends less time with her dad because he has other commitments with other kids. I don't blame kids. I am angry that I fell in love just like that. Shall I try harder?

A) I think in the long run it would be easier all round if you learnt to deal with it and dont take this the wrong way stop being selfish all children whether they are biologically yours or not are demanding. You should be greatful that he still supports his children not enough parents support there children. You will have your time when the children leave home or when they go away or go to bed. That is part of the parcel of being a parent until such time the children come first. Your problem lies with the fact that your partner had children with another women ask yourself if they were biologically your children would you have this issue? Get over the other women issue he is with you and he comes home to you and the children. My email address is on my profile email me i was a child with a step mother and she was awful and i suspect you would never want your step children to think that of you. The answers do not lie with what a few of your comments have come back with they know nothing about this man or you and age does not matter you cant help who you fall in love with

Partner took out finance for settee we have, now seperated, who is responcible for paying???

Q) My partner purchased a settee, on finance, (buy now pay later or pay full amount of settee in12months time and pay no interest.) My partner didn't live with me when we purchased the settee, he took out the credit agreement in his name from his mothers address.He did this as a favour for me, as i couldn't get the finance, we agreed that i would save up to pay for the settee outright at the end of the 12 months. I saved up the money and shortly after my partner moved in with me, however due to him constantly leaving me in financail difficulties i had to keep breaking into the settee money to pay bills etc, soon it was all gone, Now my partner and i have seperated, it is time to pay for the settee and he is refusing to pay the finance, and has told me he will get them to re-possess the settee rather than pay for something he is not using. Can he do this? Can they take my settee away even though it is not me that has broken the credit agreement?? Help!! I am worried sick, i have 3 kids

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i need a dance partner really bad?

Q) i need a dance partner really bad? im 15 and im n2 ballroom dancing but cant find a partner!!!! i really cant take private lessons all the time (they provide an insructor as a male partner) but the only ballroom dance lessons are for adults or for just teen girls but whats the point with just girls w/o male partners? its very challenging to dance with the air! i would do it with adults if my partner was my age! its summertime i dont do daycamp so i cant find a partner it skool, what should i do!!?? my instructor does not know of a teen guy who would be my partner wat should i do,advertise in the paper !!??!

A) you could advertise at www.dancepartner.com Your best bet would be to make a flyer and take to ballroom studios in the area. Even if its no the same studio, some is bound to know of someone else. I would not advertise in the paper. Too many creepy freaks who prey on such out there. If you do list an email adress only as contact. You might have to send flyers to guys your age about lessons that you know and see if any are interested. Post some at school when you get back to school coming up soon.

i need a dance partner really bad help!?

Q) i need a dance partner really bad? im 15 and im n2 ballroom/latn dancing but i cant find a partner!!!! i really cant take private lessons all the time (they provide an insructor as a male partner) but the only ballroom dance lessons are for adults or for just teen girls but whats the point with just girls w/o male partners? (im a chick) its very challenging to dance with the air! i would do it with adults if my partner was my age otherwise its humiliating! its summertime i dont do daycamp so i cant find a partner it skool, what should i do!!?? my instructor does not know of a teen guy who would be my partner wat should i do, advertise in the paper !!??!

A) In ballroom/latin dancing, it is important to has a fix partner. However, it is not easy to find a fix partner. Usually ladies is not than men. At your age, instructors may not able to find a suitable partner for you unless their students' children are interest in it. Perhap, I suggest that you try line dancing. It for adults and teenagers like you. You can can do it freely and happy without worrying about a partner. Dances are mixture; cha cha, west coast swing, waltz. Just go to any CC or RC to pick up line dancing. Country as well as pop music. Just choose to dance what you like. Every fri, sat and sun, there are many places to dance. Just for a fee of $3 to $4 with/without a bottle of water. There are open air or indoor to choose from. You can make many friends with a great time to relax, picking up a dance or so. You can take a look at my website http://www.geocities.com/dancediary/EventJul06.htm on where to dance http://www.geocities.com/dancediary/newdances/LocalDances.htm or what are the dances that generally people are learning. It has scripts for self learners like me where I learn from the script. It so enjoyable that you may not want ballroom or you can do at a later age. Good luck then. Any infro you like, just email to me at deemusk@yahoo.com.sg

Me and my partner been together for a year and 3 months.?

Q) Last year my partner cheated on me with a married woman. We worked it out and got back together. My partner joined the army to make our lives better. A couple of weeks ago, I found out that I had stomach cancer and had to have surgery. I told my partner about it and she treated me like crap. Then she told me that she got into a whole new relationship with someone else, but their relationship wasn't that serious. After I got out of surgery, my partner asked me to move to Texas with her. I thought about it, but I really didnt want to go because she treated me like crap when I had cancer. When I told her that I'm not going with her, she got mad and turned her relationship with that other woman into something seriously. Now they are talking about getting married. When I was in the hospital, she let that other woman dog me out. Should I let my partner go, or should I stay?

A) That is so obvious let her go you dont need a person like that in your life treating you like crap and not caring for you . Well she cheated on you since way before and then did it again. No she doesnt seem worth it to be wasting your time on when you could find somebody much better. So hopefully you dont go back to all that drama and all I could say is just wish you luck and move on!!!

i need a dance partner really bad help!?

Q) i need a dance partner really bad? im 15 and im n2 ballroom dancing but cant find a partner!!!! i really cant take private lessons all the time (they provide an insructor as a male partner) but the only ballroom dance lessons are for adults or for just teen girls but whats the point with just girls w/o male partners? its very challenging to dance with the air! i would do it with adults if my partner was my age! its summertime i dont do daycamp so i cant find a partner it skool, what should i do!!?? advertise in the paper !!??! my teachers cant find any teen guys i meant instructors cant find any teen guys

A) If you need a really bad dance partner. I can recommend a few. What I think you are looking for is a really good dance partner soon. Try to find a group lesson where they switch partners. It's best to learn with different partners so that you will be able to dance with anyone. Don't worry if you are dancing with the grown-ups. Once you are going on a regular basis invite friends to take lessons also. If you meet someone new ask him to take lessons with you. New boyfriends will do almost anything when they are first trying to impress you. In the mean time you'll be learning with the adults. Ballroom is best learned early on so that you have the skills for the rest of your life. Of course you can wait until you are 50 years old but then you have to learn the same stuff but you spend the next 35 years not knowing how to dance. Take the lessons any way you can. You will never regret knowing how to Dance. God Bless You, ;-)